Girls and Sex: A new book about coming-of-age.

A new book worth reading! The passage from girlhood to womanhood, particularly around sexuality, should be one of pride and discovery leading to an enhanced sense of one’s self as a woman and genuine capacity for healthy intimacy and meaningful relationships. Too often it is a journey fraught with unnecessary challenges due to ignorance and misinformation or painful wounding, whether of the body, the mind, or the spirit.

My forthcoming novel, The Flying Girl, is the story of one young woman’s struggle to find her way through the labyrinth of distorting influences which have–so far in her life–formed only shaky foundations on which to build her selfhood and ability to love and be loved. I chose to write the story of The Flying Girl because I believe it is one too seldom told, too readily swept into the dim light of secret places. For far too many girls, coming-of-age sexually means confusion, shame, and physical / psychological / emotional abuse by others, including family, friends, lovers, religious authority, politicians and government institutions, the media and other messengers of culture. As a society, we don’t easily speak openly about girls becoming sexual–even now, in 2017–and frankly, that is both crazy and crazy-making.   

Peggy Orenstein’s new book, Girls and Sex, is a welcome contribution to helping heal this significant handicapping of girls’ and women’s health and happiness. I’m glad to see it on our nation’s bookshelves! Click on the link below to see a full review.

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Girls and Sex, by Peggy Orenstein, reviewed on

Annie Bloom’s Books Shelf-Awareness newsletter March 2017

 (And thanks to the Shelf-Awareness newsletter from Annie Bloom’s Books in Portland OR for bringing Peggy Orenstein’s Girls and Sex to my attention. Support your local bookstore!)

Wonder Woman: UN Ambassador for the Empowerment of Women and Girls

It seems it’s true that wonders never cease, and in this case it is the United Nations naming Wonder Woman as the Honorary UN Ambassador for the Empowerment of Women and Girls around the world. I have no doubt she has and will continue to inspire flying girls to be all that they can be for many years to come. Wherever you women and girls may be and whatever your hopes, dreams, and pursuits, fly high! 

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POW!  BAM!  WHAM!  KAPOW!

So what’s on the agenda?

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Okay, I’m back — and thinking about additional pages I want to design for my blog, posts to write, images and quotes to add, even some audio and visual features I hope to create.

I want my blog to be a space where certain aspects of life and love can be wondered about, where questions are asked and answers may be found. In the hope that something here sparks your curiosity or resonates in your heart, I draw from my background in professional psychology and other life experience so as to explore and share with you some of the themes and subject areas I’m most interested in and care about–in particular, those that relate to the major themes, lead characters, and cultural context of my novel The Flying Girl:

—  Relationships:  Between spouses and partners, lovers and friends; between mothers or fathers and daughters or sons. Why do so many of us date or marry people who turn out to be other than what we hope or expect? Is there such a thing as soul mates? Are we destined to repeat the past, or can we heal and learn from it, even transform it into a gift we can bring to others?

—  Coming-of-age:  How do we emerge from childhood to adulthood prepared for healthy, responsible sexual intimacy, without shame or fear, and with respect and value given to our own and others’ bodies and sexuality? If we overcome a lack of information, the effects of myth or bias, repression or abuse, and imbue our experience with more meaning and value, might we engage in more loving relationships, reduce the prevalence of sexual violence, and lessen the pain of abuse and victimization?

—  The Sixties, The “Sexual Revolution” and “Women’s Lib,” and San Francisco: The era and setting in which my novel-in-progress, The Flying Girl, takes place. I’ll be writing about 60’s politics, the Hippies, the Beat influence, the “Pill” and its effects on sexual morays, the jazz of the Beat era and the San Francisco rock explosion that followed, 60’s counterculture values and spirituality, fashion, and more. Watch for pictures, images, and posts about the real Sixties in San Francisco communicated by people who were actually there.

People ask me why I write . . .

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Like jazz, stories are meant to be heard, to strike resonant chords in our hearts or rumble down deep in our gut. Soul music. Melodies and words about what matters. When we tell our stories and they are listened to, and when we listen to other people’s stories, we build community, come closer. We grow in understanding of ourselves and others, and hopefully become more curious, suspend old ideas and assumptions … Read more about why I write.


 “I am a bud beginning to unfold, a story waiting to be told.”                                                                       –Sam Keen


Red-orange rosebud on dark background.The Flying Girl is my novel-in-progress, and much of this website is about my journey toward its completion. Throughout, I will share with you bits and pieces, questions and conclusions, about the story’s overall themes: dysfunctional parent-child bonds and their relevance to adult relationships and sexuality, coming of age in sexual terms, and the unconscious patterns that bind and blind so many struggling to achieve healthy adult intimacy.

As the story begins, the year is 1969, “the pill” has arrived, the Sexual Revolution is in full swing, and all the rules about relationships and sex have been turned upside down. Read more about The Flying Girlthe story and characters, the setting and times–as well as a brief excerpt from Chapter One.